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Patience and Letting Go: Practice Makes Peaceful February 28, 2011

I woke up this past Friday morning, with a feeling that still hasn’t passed. My intuition was pulling me to write about what I was feeling the very moment I woke up Friday, but for some reason I did not. Something tells me, the reason I am still feeling these feelings, is because I have yet to write about them.

(Just as a side note to this blog post, I want to thank you all for sharing this blog with me. It heals me in many ways, and I hope by me sharing my experience, strength, and hope with you here, that you find your own healing as well.)

Lately I have been overwhelmed with feelings of impatience. It unconsciously eats at me until I become aware of the frustration I am dealing with in each moment. As a result, I have been contemplating two art forms: The Art of Letting Go, and The Art of Practicing Patience.  I am learning two things from my current life experiences.

Number 1: If we want to participate in the act of loving deeply, we must be prepared to master the art of letting go.


Number 2: Life IS patience.

You see, as I feel into my feelings of impatience, it is revealed to me that I am suffering from my own resistance to letting people, places, and things go, and therefore not accepting my life exactly the way it is right now. It is a result of my inability to trust my own process to unfold in a way that feels joyful, secure, and fulfilling to me.

When I become anxious and antsy with intense feelings about wishing things were different, or frustrated that things aren’t happening faster than they are, I lose power and begin to spin out of control.

However, I am reminding myself that I MUST be willing to master the art of letting go if I want to participate in loving deeply in this life, and also, that life IS patience. This helps me shift my perception.

If I really LOVE something or someone truly and deeply, then letting him, or it go, does not mean I will lose anything. It only means I am willing to make room for things to unfold naturally and organically, trusting that there is a Divine order happening in my life. It is a win-win, because letting go of someone or something that is not truly best for you, only means that once you let it go, you will create the space for something or someone better to come into your experience, which CANNOT happen until you let go of what you think you want.

Patience is something that is REQUIRED if we want to experience peace. Life does not happen on MY terms…it happens on Life’s terms, and therefore I must adapt to life, rather than trying to make life adapt to me. Therefore, living life IS a constant practice of patience.

Today, I was getting super annoyed and irritable. I just wanted to cry and scream and blame the heavens for not giving me everything I think I should have by now (yes, i can be  drama queen :)). But… after I spewed out this yucky energy for a while, and realized how unpleasant it feels to me and anyone who is unfortunate enough to cross my path, I decided it was a self-defeating behavior, and one that I do not wish to repeat from this day forward.

The truth is, I have so much great stuff happening all the time. It may not always look the way I want it to, or think it should, but in the end, I am always pleased with the way things turn out.

I am actually appearing on TV tonight at 9pm EST, 6pm PST, on Discovery Channel’s HD Theatre. I was hired to train the one and only Ryan Freidlinghaus from West Coast Customs on an episode of “Inside West Coast Customs,” his new show. As a result of this job, I ended up training he and his wife for about 6 months even after we wrapped the show.

So you see, as much as I like to believe differently on days like today, things are good for me, and they may be moving slower than I want them too, but they are moving in a good direction, and at the end of the day…that’s the most important thing of all.

So, the moral of the story is, in the name of LOVE, learn to let go of everything you think you want…

at least just for today.

Remind yourself that letting go is the only way you can ever hold on to anything, because real love cannot be held on to. It must be admired, nurtured, and given space to become what it was always meant to become.

Also, patience isn’t just something we need as children when waiting for our parents to give us the toy or dessert we want. It is an art form, that is the very key to the doorway of inner peace.

Love IS letting go, and Life IS patience. Without these two things, we will find it difficult to feel the serenity in our hearts that we are seeking.

So, when you notice that you are giving yourself a hard time, or obsessing over something you cannot control, I hope you STOP. Breathe. Remind yourself, that just for today you can let it all go. Just for this moment, you can allow life to be exactly as it is.

Here’s to your beautiful journey, your health, wellness, and vitality.

Please leave me your questions and comments here, as it is always a gift to hear from you.

Thank you,



4 Responses to “Patience and Letting Go: Practice Makes Peaceful”

  1. Annie Says:

    This is a place where i also find my healing, so i feel very very thankful for this blog and the fact that one fine day i found this inspiring uplifting blog..
    i had and maybe sometimes still have a hard time with ‘letting things go’.. to what i finally concluded to this day was that it is nor really about letting go..because letting go has as a prerequisite that you hold on to this or that..
    so what is it about then? real love in my equation is freedom.. so then Love IS freedom and as you beautifully say Life IS patience.. to honor that things come at their own sweet perfect time.. Nature doesn’t hurry, yet accomplishes all that was supposed to… [well, i really need to work on that..patience is not really my kind of thing..]

    when I do love and I feel the Love (the real Love) within , and I reflect it to anything else (person, situation, attitude) in my path, then I really don’t have to grasp on to them or hold on to any of that… the more I try to squeeze these things and hold them in my palm the more is
    likely that they will escape and I will turn out emptyhanded.. however, giving total freedom, means i respect the other (person/situation etc) and respecting also myself , because freedom means accepting as the total freedom to Be..that is total Love..
    Love has no strings attached.. One loves for free..
    and a metaphor i Love: if one cuts a single flower to keep it on his desk, then this flower later will wither and die.. but if he lets it BE there in the garden, he will have it forever.. he won’t cut it to keep it for himself and so he will not own it and definitely will not have to see it wither and die.. i think that is similar to relationships and maybe with anything.. in the end , we don’t own anything other than our own beings and that’s giving you total freedom, if it can be called ownship because when you love you don’t really own.. and you don’t carry along baggage on your back..
    Woww… sorry for this long post… it came very abruptly and unexpectedly…

    Thank you for this great post dear Erin, for encouraging, for supporting, for being positive, for spreading the FIT LIFE!! you are so so unique…

    Love and Gratitude

    • Erin Lanahan Says:

      Wow, that was beautiful and insightful and brilliant Annie. I feel so blessed and honored to get to connect with you here. Thanks so much for visiting and sharing your experiences with us here. We can all learn from each other:)

      Love and Light,

  2. Thank You Says:

    I wanted you to know that your article on Patience and Letting Go was exactly what I needed to hear. God worked through you to send me a message of something I needed to understand, but didn’t for a long time. Now I do. You were inspired by the spirit to share this article. Thank you.

    • Erin Lanahan Says:

      Well…it is an honor to be the vessel that this came through then:) So happy it helped move and shift you. I appreciate you. Thanks for visiting and sharing your beautiful, kind experience and words!

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