Erin Lanahan Method

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Sometimes It’s Better To Love Em From A Distance October 20, 2011

How do you love someone so much and at the same time know it is best to love them from a distance?

This has been one of the most challenging lessons for me. There is a person in my life who I love very much, on many levels, but I know from experience I am better off being honest about my feelings with this person. When I am honest about my feelings, it is always made clear to me that he and I are in two completely different places when it comes to romantic love.

What has been so difficult, is loving this person in more ways than one. I have struggled with my boundaries in our relationship because I want to love unconditionally. However, sometimes we just have to love someone unconditionally without actually engaging with them.

I have struggled so much in the past, but the fog has begun to clear. In the past, I would always end up compromising my own well-being because I thought I “should” be able to love him unconditionally and therefore accept him exactly the way he is. However, I am just now beginning to see and understand that I can absolutely love him and accept him unconditionally without actually having to see him, email with him, or talk to him.

Tonight I am free. I have managed to stay in alignment with my values, to live in integrity, and to continue loving and accepting this person unconditionally. Up to now, I was unable to do what I felt was loving him AND stay in integrity all at the same time. This time was different because I told him I could not see him anymore if nothing had changed, whereas in the past I would’ve tried to make myself be different. I decided to love and accept myself unconditionally as well as him, and instead of trying to be different, I did something different.

I don’t feel the need to explain to him that I will always love him and accept him exactly the way he is. Only I need to know that it’s nothing personal towards him, but that it just doesn’t work for me, and I’m better off to love him from a distance. So that is exactly what I will do.

Please let me know what you are going through. It is an intense time on the planet right now and we are ALL being super confronted in our relationships, at work, with health stuff, etc. You may be experiencing really intense feelings you can’t quite understand and it’s possible you are questioning everything you once believed. It’s ok! You are safe, and just experiencing the same transition we are all experiencing. As we move closer to October 28th, expect even more of this stuff to surface. Be gentle, loving, and kind to yourself and others. Show compassion towards all living things, and stay open to the magical opportunities and possibilities that will be revealing themselves to you each day.

I love you all. Let me know what’s coming up for you!

xoxo E

 

Summing It Up October 18, 2011

Hey guys. Man, the energies are getting more intense every day. I just finished a long talk and process with a friend and I am exhausted now. It’s also way past my bed time! I just want you to know I am here. It’s October 18th here in Australia, so just  ten more days until the big shift in consciousness. I hope you are preparing for the awesomeness 🙂

Ok see you here tomorrow! xo

E

 

Contemplation and Observation- Day 2 of Transformation October 9, 2011

Hello all! Happy Day # 2 of transformation! If you don’t already know what I am talking about, I posted and article yesterday that will fill you in, called Prepare For Transformation: 21 Days of Blogging 🙂 Please join us as we go deeper within ourselves and awaken!

Today I want to talk about contemplation and observation. I find myself reminding my clients as well as myself, that healing is simply a result of acknowledging what currently exists, without trying to change it, avoid it, judge it, or run away from it.  To really BE with ourselves is the goal. Can you really BE with your pain, BE with your fear, BE with the vast unknown that may emerge when you begin to venture outside your comfort zones?

As we allow ourselves to observe the parts within us or the physical aspects of our bodies or personalities, that we still have not found a way to accept, let us contemplate on those areas. Feel your lack of acceptance in those areas, observe the feelings that this lack of acceptance kicks up, and just BE with it.

We spend so much time and energy making up stories about our feelings, running from them, and trying to change them, and then we wonder why we feel such deep sorrow and suffering at times. Suffering is not in  the facts, it is in our perception of the facts. As you begin to allow yourself to feel things, without trying to change them, the things you feel will change. They will transform you as well.

Practice observing your reactions, thoughts, behaviors, and feelings. Notice your own fears and triggers, and when you say or do something that feels like a misrepresentation of how you want to show up in the world. BE with the fears underneath your reactions and behaviors. BE with your lack of acceptance, and then begin to accept all parts of yourself.

Accept your age, your wrinkles, your body shape and size. Accept your fears, your circumstances, and your insecurities. Accept the you that you have been rejecting all your life.

BE with your soul, and give your mind a break. Think from your heart and from your gut.

Contemplate on where you have yet to accept yourself. Observe your thoughts and feelings about yourself. That’s it. Then accept yourself exactly the way you are right now.

You can practice doing this with others as well. Observe your judgments of them. Contemplate on your perceptions of the world. Notice where you are in fear, are run by limiting beliefs, and where you lack acceptance and compassion for yourself, others, and the planet. Then change it. Just accept all of it, right then and there.

I too am on this journey with you. I am watching my every move, every thought, and every feeling. My desire to awaken and experience great love, joy, peace, and oneness, overrides all other desires at this point in my evolution. I have come to understand that nothing else is really all that important compared to the opportunity we all have to finally feel connected, healed, and at one with all that is.

How are you going? I would love to hear about your journey. Thank you for being a part of my life.

Love and Light,

Erin

P.S. Here is a video clip of me, just checking in with you! I also put it up on my youtube channel🙂

 

 

 
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