Erin Lanahan Method

Signature method to get fit from the inside out!

Ah…Relationships: When Is It Time To Call It Quits For Good? October 12, 2011

 

Hey mates! Ha ha…I had to give you a little Aussie-ism as I am hearing them all long day these days:) Today is day 5 of the 21  days of blogging to transformation I have been talking about. Boy are things speeding up and life gets more interesting every day. How are things going for you? Are you doing the process I suggested?

I have recently had someone re-emerge in my life. He kind of does this. He appears, disappears, appears, and disappears. For a long time this relationship was a GOLD MINE for me because it really brought up all my stuff around fear of intimacy, lack of power, lack of self-worth and self-respect, lack of boundaries, and lack of values that align with integrity. The last time I saw this person was almost a year ago and now he’s emailing me about visiting. What do I say???

I have been meditating on this one for a couple of days now, and the message I keep getting is to let him go. I keep hearing this higher-than-self voice gently saying, “Erin, tell him where you’re at, and accept that it is time to let him go. You have learned all you can learn, and healed all you can heal from this relationship.”

The truth is, I really am a different person than I was when this guy came into my life. I believe we both played a very special, very important role in each other’s lives, but I think there really does come a point in time when we have to choose something different for ourselves. The temptation is to say, “Yeah, come visit and let’s have some serious fun!” However, from past experiences, I know where that will and WON’T get me. It’s not a matter of just not taking things so seriously and just having some fun, because believe me I have tried that with this person.

Sometimes, it’s just time to team up with integrity, to put all our money on something better, and to place the bet. Either way it’s a risk, but at least when we try something different, we have a chance of getting a better result. Otherwise , we will just keep getting the same results over and over. I don’t know what I want from this relationship. I used to think I wanted committment, or to at least explore what it would be like to be together, in monogamy. Now, I can’t say I feel that way about him anymore, so I have to wonder…what kind of room does that give us? Friends? What kinds of “friends” would we really be? I’m not certain he meets my friendship standards to be honest.

Number one priority in, or out of relationships, is to love yourself. Know your boundaries, your values, and what you are worth and NEVER compromise that. TRUST that when you align with your highest feelings and values, things will turn out for the best. My mother always said, “You can’t do the wrong thing with the right guy.” (Or girl,  guys:) I believe the same goes for friends. If we are authentic, honest, and vulnerable, the right people will remain standing in our lives, and the rest will fall away.

We must live in integrity, and let the right person drop into that space. If he or she isn’t dropping into your space and rising to the event to be with you…it’s time to graciously say “Thank you, I love you, I wish you all the best, but I must clear my space for someone better for me.”

Today was a very cool day for me. I have been making up super creative workout using trees, logs, hills, steps, and railings, and getting amazing workouts as a result. I am finding such freedom in not NEEDING a gym to get a workout in. I am realizing I do not NEED nearly as much as I once thought. I am discovering that freedom IS when you can feel happy, joyous, and free, wherever you are, under any and all circumstances, no matter who you are or are NOT with. I am finding true freedom, and for that I give thanks.

Please drop me a line or email me at erinlanahanmethod@gmail.com to share what you are going through. Let me support you however I can as we all grow through this shift together!

Love Always,

Erin

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A Sacred Relationship Between Spirit And Body July 10, 2011

I was just watching this video I did on my YouTube Channel, and wanted to invite you to also take a look. I would love to have you explore this idea of being in relationship with your body. For me it has been a profound awakening and as a result I am able to be in partnership with my body. I help my body and my body helps me.

We have all heard the saying, “Your Body Is Your Temple.” Well, that’s what I am talking about here. For some of you, this may feel like a stretch, or difficult to wrap your head around, and if so that’s OK. All I am suggesting here, is to explore this concept and whether or not it has the power to transform the way you make choices in your life.

Please share your comments and questions with me here. I believe feedback and sharing are some of the greatest ways to learn and grow together.

Here’s To Your Health, Wellness, and Vitality!

xo Erin

 

Living A Sacred Life: Here’s Some Inspiration For You! March 3, 2011

Greetings,

I just signed up for the Sacred Awakening Series – 21 spiritual leaders sharing their secrets to living a sacred life over the next seven weeks. It sounds just incredible, and I’m so excited to share this opportunity with you:-)

http://sacredawakeningseries.com

It’s totally free and features people like Alice Walker, Ram Dass, Jack Kornfield, and Grandmother Mona Polacca. Calls are recorded so you can catch up with ones you miss, as well as gain access to the archives of last year’s series with people such as Marianne Williamson, Robert Thurman, and Sadhguru.

Should be fantastic, so I hope you can join in!

Best,
Erin

 

Holistic Thursday- “What Is Ego?” July 9, 2009

If it doesn’t bring you peace, let it go!!!

 

Today I am feeling like talking a little bit about the Ego. We all may have different definitions of what that means to us, but I want to share my definition and understanding of it with you. We all have an ego, but we are not our ego. Our ego is that little voice inside our heads that encourages us to do things for the wrong reasons. It can be very convincing in it’s manipulative ways, for example making you believe it’s best to show someone up to spite them because you are upset about something they did that hurt you. However, it is never the best choice to act from spite or anger. It only makes us feel worse in the end. To act from a place of love is always best, but the ego will never encourage that. So think twice before you act, and ask yourself where your motivation is coming from. Is it anger or love?

Our ego can obviously play a big role in the gym. We see a lot of egos pumping iron, grunting and showing off in the mirrors. In fact I always remind myself of this when I am working out. You see, when others admire you or watch you because they are intrigued by what they learn from you, it is easy to get a big head or become full of yourself. However, if we fall victim to our ego, we will become one of those people who stop acting out of love and instead act from a place of feeling better than everyone else.

I choose to always check myself and make sure I don’t let things go to my head too much. It doesn’t feel good at the end of the day, to put others down or show them less respect because I think I’m so great. I make a concerted effort to remain in a place of gratitude every moment for all that I have achieved, and continue to achieve. When others admire me, it makes me happy, but only because my goal in life is to inspire others to be the best they can be. My ego tries to get me all wrapped up in the attention I get sometimes, but instead of riding that wave of conceit, I choose to idle in appreciation.  People admire others who have something they want. So I can treat them as if I have something they can’t have, or something they can have. I would rather shine my light to give others permission to shine theirs, than shine so bright only to steal everyone else’s light from them because they don’t know any better. “No thanks” I tell my ego, “I got it covered. There will be no need for you today, so you can just have a seat.”

What experiences have you had where something has gotten to your head? Or, have you ever felt like someone thought they had more power than you? No one is better than anyone. We are all equal and on our own unique journeys and, in my opinion, we should show respect to everyone, no matter what, and give others equal chances to be the greatest they can be. That feels much better to me than trying to hold them back for fear of their success. Only our ego gets threatened. Our true selves, the part of us that is pure love, would never take anyone’s power from them out of fear. That is who I choose to be. How about you?  

I would love to hear anything you feel like sharing. Please leave all questions/comments for me here on the blog!!! Here’s To Your Health!!!

 

 
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